2025 Ins & Outs

No need to over-explain this one

Ins:

• always skewing positive

• plum/red lip stains

• Waymos

• earl grey (always IN tbh)

• reading fiction

• dancing like no one is watching

• being open-minded

• talking to ChatGPT (“hey Chat”)

• trips with travel-style-compatible friends

• matcha

• staying warm

• pilates

• baseball caps with cunty little text on them ;) (always IN imo)

• waking up early on the weekend

• taking yourself on dates

• chivalry

• checking in on your friends

• impromptu going to Paris

• solo travel

• monochrome fits

• spending the entire night at a wine bar

• heated workouts

• silk scarves as multitools (neck, hair, bag accessories)

• spending a Saturday bantering in the same spot

• over-purchasing coffee table books

• flirting

• clutch bags

• intentionally crafted UX

• making home movies

• exploring places you were previously closed off too

• prioritizing your skin

• seafood

• JOMO

• making lists

• learning how things work

• personal websites

• pop music

• buying matching things with your best friends

• pop music (hating pop music doesn’t make you deep fyi)

• using prime TikTok comment trends IRL

• saying no with kindness—no need to force

• flaunting your favorite quotes

• sitting up straight

• letting the invite find you instead of forcing it.

• wedding content

• buying people flowers

Outs:

• oversharing carelessly

• chewing loud (I have misophonia)

• codependence

• casting judgement unnecessarily

• sugary lattes (sorry but you’re welcome)

• being a sh**ty texter

  (I have fallen victim to this too but if you’re good friends with them…pick up the phone, darling, even if it’s just to say you’ll text back in a few days.)

• clubs (have been out for a while)

• giving gifts with no intentionality (please just write me a heartfelt card)

• phones at dinner or coffee (will never be IN)

• sweatpants in public (except if post sport)

• leaving your sh** out of place

• the kind of dupes where it’s just wrong…

• being guilted into anything

• accepting anything less than golden treatment.

• brands that are popular for no good reason (PM if you want names)

• wired headphones

• filtering your humor

• wasting money

• thinking hating pop music makes you cool

• faking satisfaction

• copying people and without acknowledging credit…

• being net negative

• buying a new outfit for every occasion

• keeping a standard lexicon

• not traveling efficiently

• compulsively doomscrolling before bed

• Oversharing on LinkedIn

*this list is subject to change until Jan. 1 😉*